The right mindset…
I have been wanting to write for so many days and weeks and months but I never got the time… yes this is an all-time excuse for almost 99% of the people… we don’t have time… and for some people like myself, we have other excuses like not having enough energy… feeling sick and tired all the time… having this pain or that… another excuse is to feel inadequate or unskilled… I don’t know how to write… I don’t know how to do this or that according to the standard of perfection… But the real reason behind all of these excuses is that we lack the proper intention… the proper mindset… I mean we don’t really yearn for Allah’s pleasure or His Paradise like we crave for the pleasure of people and the things of this world.
If we observe our attitude we can see very clearly that whatever we desire with passion… whatever we think as extremely important… then we do it no matter what. Like in last Ramadan, I was listening to the recordings of detailed tafseer of 29th Juz… and I felt it to be my utmost responsibility to share its gems through writing… so when I saw that it was not possible to do it during the daytime, I decided to take the other option… which was to listen to the lectures after taraweeh till sehri time… and after sehri and fajar, I would sit down to write the article which took me another couple of hours… this was the schedule I followed for the whole month… sleeping only 3 to 4 hours in the daytime… wasting no time in phone calls or other chit chat… focused on my objective… so much that the struggle turned into a pleasure… how? Because of the strong intention… and the consistent schedule to fulfill it… all due to the mercy of Allah…
This continued for another 3 months or so in which I was writing regularly but then I started to slow down… bit by bit… until it just withered away into nothingness… why? Probably I became over confident and I didn’t take any steps to renew my intentions… probably I looked down on others and thought that they were just wasting their lives in excuses while I was being so dutiful for the sake of Allah… or probably I thought I had done so much and now I could use a little rest… I use the word “probably” because these things happen and we don’t even realize that our thoughts are being corrupted by arrogance and self-satisfaction. Because being satisfied with the way we live our lives is the only reason why we don’t try to change it… we only wash our hands when we feel that they are dirty… we get up to make some food when we feel hungry… it’s in human nature that we do things when we think we need to… or when we want to…
Therefore if Allah’s pleasure is really my goal then my race towards my goal will never end… because I can never know that He is pleased with me until I meet Him…
On the other hand if pleasing my own self is important for me then I will do things only to the level of convenience… and I will be satisfied that it is enough…
May Allah protect us from illusions and distractions… May He allow us to keep moving towards our true goal… with true intention and true passion… Ameen
The last day…
For the past few days I have been thinking a lot on making new year resolutions… but as much as I want to set targets for the upcoming year, I am being pulled back by the realization of how much I have failed to do in the past… and so I have not been able to put anything on the paper so far… maybe because of fear of failure…
But last night I told myself that okay tomorrow is the last day of this year so what are you going to do about it? There are only two options… either you plan or you don’t… in the first case you have a hope of accomplishing something… even if it’s not 100% but still maybe you will end up doing 80 or 70 or 50%… but what if you don’t plan? What do you hope to gain by that? Surely this would be a bigger failure altogether… isn’t it?
Therefore here I am once again… back on the blog… back on track… ready to plan… ready to work hard… and ready to accept my weaknesses as a human being…
Some of the reasons which I identified as obstacles to my consistency are the following:
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Having unrealistic expectations from myself.
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Fear of failure.
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Being too idealistic.
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Often falling into the deception of desires which come in the disguise of needs.
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Getting distracted by small things.
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Wanting to get too much done in too many different directions.
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Being too much conscious of my weaknesses.
This last point is the one which hit me the most… because just as we should avoid being arrogant about our abilities… similarly harmful is the tendency of blaming yourself for your deficiencies and weaknesses… this is not humbleness but a self-destructive thinking pattern which makes us unable to take up any project with energy and optimism… because this inner voice keeps pulling us down… oh no you cannot do this… oh you are too ignorant… you are too weak… etc… etc… etc…
The balanced way of self-analysis is to recognize your abilities and thank Allah for giving you these gifts with which you can benefit yourself and others… similarly you recognize your flaws and you ask Allah’s forgiveness and you take steps to overcome these barriers to your success… this is real humbleness… this is true repentance…
Otherwise we can keep saying to others or to ourselves that we wish we could do this and that… or we wish we didn’t waste our time and our lives… or we are so much bothered by our sins… But these repetitive statements have no value or benefit if they are not followed up by action…
Your actions are the true indicators of how much truth there is in your intentions… in your aspirations and in your vision.
If you and I believe that we are on a journey… and we wish to reach a good end… then why are not we moving ahead?
Let’s make this coming year a time of taking actions… let’s make our dreams into projects… let’s convert our wishes into true intentions… let’s do something…
Think Carefully!!
Many year ago I read in a book by Maulana Wahid ud Din khan, a statement…
“Most of our problems get started in our minds and that’s where they can be ended.”
I was reminded of this quote, when a few days back a friend said to me, “Do you know that we can create anything just by thinking about it?” I said of course everything begins with a thought… but surely that’s just a first step and it has to be followed with a lot of hard work and sacrifice… But she insisted that we are not using our power of thought in the right way… and this made me ponder on this idea and I had to admit that she was right.
It is so true that Allah has given a most powerful device with which we can do anything and everything… and that is our choice to think… in fact I even heard a very educated person saying… “Whatever you want to become… whatever you wish to achieve… just start thinking about it.” And the opposite is also true… “Whatever you keep thinking and keep saying… about yourself or about others… it will become a reality.”
So I began to realize how we have used or misused this power of thought and expression… Have you ever wondered why a person is so popular and loved among some people… and quite the opposite to some others? What’s the difference? The reason is that we tend to behave according to other people’s expectation and opinions about us… and so when we are among people who think we are good… and they appreciate us… then it sends us vibes of positive energy… and makes us feel enthusiastic and excited… and so we are extra nice to them.
But if we think negatively about someone then then that person will receive that negative energy and will not be genuinely sincere to us, even though outwardly the behavior might be very nice on both sides… there will be no happiness in such a relationship. Only a burden of having to present a good exterior…
In my research on this topic I even found that if you constantly say that you are feeling sick… weak and tired… exhausted… then this is how you will become. If you keep on repeating that you are getting old and incapable of doing things, then that is what’s going to happen to you… even forgetful people can stop forgetting things if they start saying that they have very good memory and they can remember everything!! Or if a person with high cholesterol keeps repeating that his cholesterol is normal then he will become normal.
Now this seems like you are denying the reality… but your intention is not to pretend or deceive… but to heal yourself with the medicine of positive statements…
Just like we take even the most bitter medicine… or we go through painful treatments… our intention is not to collect even more pain or bitterness… rather we know that it is just a bridge to cross… from sickness to health.
Similarly we can use positive thoughts and positive statements to create energetic and healthy bodies… healthy and flourishing relationships… wonderful productive lives… anything and everything…
And now I understand why Allah gave us so much to think about and so much to say, in all our rituals of worship… we begin the day by duas of gratitude… then we use water to purify us… then prayer… reciting Allah’s words… doing zikr… everything so perfect, so positive… to give us the right perspective and to fill us with the energy of His most profound words… so that when we go about our various tasks and deal with people, this energy should radiate to others too… and should make our environment vibrate with positivity and hope… with gratitude and appreciation… with gentleness and forgiveness…
But this will happen only when we think and ponder and believe… because Allah gave us power of thought… and things will affect us the way we think about them.
That is why the Quran begins with the surah Al Fatihah… which doesn’t tell us to do anything… rather it builds our foundation of positive thoughts of gratitude, obedience and responsibility of being accountable to Allah… because we cannot even follow Allah’s commands if our thoughts are not in the right direction.
Therefore at the end of surah Al Baqarah, Allah warns us that whether we express our thoughts or keep them hidden… Allah will hold us accountable for what we kept nurturing in our hearts…
لِلَّهِ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الْأَرْضِ ۗ وَإِنْ تُبْدُوا مَا فِي أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَوْ تُخْفُوهُ يُحَاسِبْكُمْ بِهِ اللَّهُ ۖ فَيَغْفِرُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ وَيُعَذِّبُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ ۗ وَاللَّهُ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ {284}
Whatever is in the heavens and whatever is in the earth is Allah’s; and whether you manifest what is in your minds or hide it, Allah will call you to account according to it; then He will forgive whom He pleases and chastise whom He pleases, and Allah has power over all things.
Love and Be Loved…
There is nothing in this world that can be compared with the blessings of paradise… except for one thing… and that is the delight of Allah’s love. Because this is the one and only gift that is complete and perfect… a joy that will never end.
All the rest of the things are imperfect, incomplete and temporary… and so they cannot give us the peace and happiness that we yearn for.
The light of Allah’s love is such a priceless blessing, that we must make it our topmost concern and desire to achieve it… and so we must strive to recognize Him… through His perfect names and attributes and by contemplating on His signs in the universe… and pondering on the Quran.
Because you know the reason why we are not able to remain steadfast on the right path? Its because we just start doing things mechanically… while our hearts are attached to other pleasures and desires. So the acts of goodness are perceived as barriers between us and our desires… and that’s why we pray salah so fast… because we want to get back into the life which we desire.
Now imagine how greatly uplifting it would be if we could enjoy our acts of worship!! We’d be yearning for our meeting with Allah if we truly loved Him…
So how can we achieve this goal? Is it even possible?
Of course it is… but we have to understand its value to be able to “want” it… and then to strive towards it.
The process can be long and hard but the fruits are worth the effort. So we should do all our acts of worship… whether prayers or fasting or giving sadaqah… or even serving people and fulfilling our worldly duties… with this intention and dua that Allah might give us His true love and desire.
On one hand we must exert our best efforts in all aspects of life… and on the other hand we must make constant duas to achieve this ultimate gift…
I will end this article with a quote from fiqh-ul-qulub
Obeying Allah and His Messenger (s.a.w) is apparently hard… but this hardship is like a drop… and the pleasures hidden behind it… are like an ocean.
Whereas following your hearts desires and ignoring the commands of Allah and His Messenger (s.a.w) is apparently enjoyable… but this enjoyment is like a drop… and the torture and hardships hidden behind it… are like an ocean…
So what would be a better deal?
An ocean of enjoyment at the cost of a drop of hardship…
or a drop of pleasure at the cost of an ocean of hardship?
The time to choose is limited… but the results are irreversible and unlimited…
Understand the Need of your Heart…
If I believe with one hundred percent conviction… without any doubt… that my daily prayers are my connection to Allah… then why is it that my heart does not remain focused on Allah when I am standing before Him? And even though I understand the meanings of the words that I am uttering… and the meaning of all the postures during salah… yet why don’t I actively feel the impact of those words or actions?
The other question that keeps bothering me from time to time is that when we believe that everything is in the hands of Allah the All Mighty… then why do we blame people when things go wrong. Sometimes we cannot even prove that they harmed us intentionally, but still we think like they are the culprits behind every setback that we face in life… So where is our tawakkul? And our belief in Allah’s Taqdeer? Why is our heart more fearful of people and situations and does not fear the creator of those people and situations? Why is there no real love of Allah and His religion? Why are we so much in love with this temporary world, and not at all looking forward to our permanent home in those perfectly beautiful gardens where nothing can ever go wrong… where all our wishes will be fulfilled… we say we believe in that world of perfect beauty and endless pleasures… and yet we don’t yearn for it??
These are questions which go around the minds of most of the people… and in order to get the solution I started studying a book along with its audio lectures… but knowledge impacts us only if we discuss it… share it… so I thought I should write down a few points daily which are easy to read and easy to apply…
When it comes to application we often start thinking in terms of physical actions that are visible and quantifiable… but we forget that first we need to apply things on the heart… and to apply the knowledge on the heart means that you think and ponder about the various ideas which will open the eyes of the heart and make it alert and conscious… in sha Allah.
The name of the book is Fiqh-ul-Qulub… and I did study and write about it few years ago… but then I got disconnected after the first few lectures and so the gap became wider and wider with time… every time I wanted to re-connect with it, I just thought it was impossible to cover such a huge distance… but then recently I got a question by a reader… “Is there an English translation of this book?” And it put me to shame that why didn’t I do this… so I thought that even though it is not in my capacity to actually translate the whole book… at least I can write a few quotes from it daily…
Fiqh-ul-Qulub… the title of this book… means the understanding of the hearts. And we all know how important our hearts are… not just in the physical sense but also in the spiritual context. In fact if you think about it, all the questions that I asked in the beginning have the same answer… that we don’t get the outcome of our efforts because our hearts are not involved in it… and even those who seek knowledge, who attend lectures and courses… most of them do not have any goal in mind… so they do it just as absent-mindedly as we pray the fatihah in salah…
So the first thing that we need to understand is that just like we cannot make our bodies work unless we feed them with food and water… similarly our hearts can only work when we give them the food that they need…
The food of the heart is the understanding of Allah and His names and His attributes and His signs in His creation and His words that He revealed to His Prophet (s.a.w)… The more we focus on understanding all these things the greater will be the light in the heart by which it can see the reality… And the greater the light of the heart, the greater will be our focus and concentration in the prayer… and the more we pray with concentration, the more it will create in our hearts the true love of Allah… and awe of His Greatness and humbleness in front of His Power… thus we will love to obey Allah and we will hate to go against His Pleasure…
The light of faith and obedience is the nourishment of our hearts… and this need of our hearts is far greater than the need of our bodies… but sadly we keep on feeding the bodies, and we starve our hearts… thus we find an emptiness in our lives that we cannot fill even though we might be living in luxuries… because our hearts can only be satisfied when they feel Allah’s love and closeness to Him in worship and other good deeds.
The taste of this true love will lead to the true desire of pleasing Allah… thus a person who gets to taste even a glimpse of Allah’s nearness, will rush to do all the things that can give him more and more of this love… and so he will find obedience easy, and will get real delight of worship… Thus his prayer will become the coolness of his heart… and the more he strives to achieve this closeness to Allah, the more he is loved by Allah and this love fills his heart and his whole life becomes a struggle to attain the ultimate meeting with Allah in the gardens of eternity… the Jannah… And you know what was the best thing I learned?
“That to feel this yearning in your heart… and to be constantly in a struggle to reach this final moment of eternal bliss… is the only blessing in this life of ours that resembles the blessings of the paradise… all other things can give us material benefits, but the satisfaction and tranquility of the heart can only be achieved through this constant desire and the struggle to achieve it…”
May Allah really bless us with His true Recognition and the true desire for His Love… Ameen
Signs of Beneficial Knowledge
One of the biggest blessings of Allah on a person is that He opens his heart for the understanding of religion… So you become like a thirsty person who wants to fill his heart and soul with the rain of knowledge… but the purpose of this knowledge is not just to satisfy our soul, or to fill the emptiness of the heart… rather it should be the force to bring a positive change in our thoughts and actions.
But the difference is that water will be absorbed in our body automatically… just like food becomes digested without any effort from us… we just have to eat and drink and that’s all… after that our bodies know what to do and they do it naturally…
But when we attain knowledge then we have to consciously make it a part of our character… we have to work hard to implement it in our lives… and in doing so we have to strive against our laziness, against our desires, against distractions, against all the things that stand between us and our success and happiness…
Knowledge is like a gift… but we have to use it to get its real benefit. Just like the most expensive car… if it is just standing in your driveway… looks beautiful and impressive… and people might appreciate it and feel envious too… but unless you know how to drive it… and until you have a clear destination in your mind… it will do you no good except for making you arrogant that you have it… and you look down on others who don’t have it…
That is why we have been taught this dua by our Prophet (s.a.w):
Allahumma inni as’aluka ilman nafi’an
Wa rizqan tayyiban
Wa amalan mutaqabbala
Ya Allah I ask you for knowledge that is beneficial
And provisions that are pure and good
And actions that are accepted
When we think of beneficial knowledge… then we have to consider two things… firstly the knowledge should be pure and authentic… secondly we should check whether it is benefitting us or not? So here are a few signs of beneficial knowledge…
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It should move our heart towards the recognition and awe of Allah… so that doing good deeds becomes easy and satisfying, and following ignorant practices becomes difficult and painful. In the words of a scholar… Beneficial knowledge is that constant voice in your heart that forces you to remain alert and conscious… it never leaves you alone… like a loyal friend and advisor… it manages your actions and your re-actions… knocking sense in your head… the moment you start going in the wrong direction, knowledge screams at you… what are you doing? Don’t you fear Allah? Where is your haya?
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The second sign is that beneficial knowledge moves you towards immediate application… like you get news of a great sale, you waste no time in going to the mall… or you learn a new recipe and you immediately want to try it… That is how knowledge that moves the heart, makes you do something about it at once… because that is the very purpose of knowledge… to improve your life… to save yourself from loss and regret. As Hasan Basri (r.a.) said…
